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The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

Good parenting requires sacrifice. Childhood lasts for only a few brief years , but it should be given priority while it is passing before your eyes

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

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The Value of “Reading Rescue”

I would like to give you an update on the progress of a young boy who has been taking the Reading Rescue program. He is a grade 4 student in a regular classroom, who because of significant learning problems has been  falling  behind his classmates in all of his subjects.

The reason for his reading problems is NOT because he can’t learn, it’s because of a  real learning disability. Most children learn to read in school following the usual curriculum and have few problems. Some children however experience a tremendous hurdle applying the reading skills taught in the conventional way. School systems of course recognize these children early in their school career and attempt to provide additional help and many of these “slow to learn how to read” students  do eventually pick it up.

The student that I am referring to however did not pick it up and because schools are reluctant to hold students back he has been promoted to grade 4 but was only reading at the preprimer level with little hope that he would advance beyond this level without some intensive work.

His parents contacted me regarding the Reading Rescue Program and I provided them with special phonics  material that was appropriate for his skill level  ( ie.sounds of individual letters) in a format that interested him and instructed mom and dad on a technique that taught him how to blend 2 sounds together (a consonant and the short vowel “a” sound), then 3 sounds until he was able to sound out 3 letter words with a medial short “a” sound (eg, sat, man, rag, etc.). This skill was then expanded into spelling short vowel sounds words.

He was then introduced to a number of “service words”  (words that may or may not be able to sounded out but make up much of our written language – example “the”, “and”, “come”, “”what”). We played many fun word games  with this ever expanding list of “sight words” and with his improving phonics skills based on vowel sounds (short, long, irregular),   he is now able to  read at the mid grade 2 level. After 4 1/2 years at school this boy had the reading skills of a typical 3 year old child. The school system continued to promote him and he appeared to be destined to be illiterate. After 4 months of 1/2 hour per night of Reading Rescue, this boy is well on his way to becoming a functional reader at the very least.

If you have a child who is not “getting it”, I invite you to give me a call.

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+ Behaviour Management

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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