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You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

Good parenting requires sacrifice. Childhood lasts for only a few brief years , but it should be given priority while it is passing before your eyes

Being a parent of a teenager can cure a person of narcissism.

Criticism is not a motivator.

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

Simple rules adhered to when children are young can prevent more serious problems later.

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

If it  was going to be easy to raise kids, it never would have started with something called "labour".

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

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The Terror of Night Terrors



Few things are more terrifying for a parent than the first time their child has a night terror. Night terrors are different than bad dreams or nightmares.

Bad dreams and nightmares happen to virtually everybody and occur during the REM sleep phase (rapid eye movement). Researchers have discovered that even fetuses have dreams – including “bad” ones. Bad dreams may cause facial grimaces, moving, thrashing about and may result in being wakened up. If a child does wake up, he will usually fall back to sleep quickly but may need to be comforted by mom or dad first. He may remember parts of the dream in the morning.

Night terrors occur in about 10% of children and typically occur during the non-REM sleep phase in the first few hours of sleep. The usual ages of children experiencing night terrors is 3 to 12 years but a very small percentage may experience them into adulthood.

During the terror, a child’s eyes may be wide open but he is not awake. He may cry, scream, hyperventalate, sit up or even get out of bed. He may push the parent away, fight against being comforted and act in very strange ways. The terror typically lasts only a few minutes but can go on for as long as 30 minutes.

The child will return to a peaceful sleep once the episode passes and will usually have no recollection of the incident in the morning.

Night terrors are truly terrifying for the parent but the child suffers absolutely no ill effect and rarely needs the pediatrician to become involved.

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