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Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

Hurt people hurt people.

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

Children fare better when expectations on them are clear and firm.

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Terror Attacks

 

10 Tips on Talking to Your Children About Terror Attacks

It is not possible to shield our children from the events such as the events that Canada has experienced this past week. They see and hear the stories on TV, radio, in the newspaper and they also note the emotional responses from the adults in their lives. The experts on such matters offer the following advice:

1. Remain calm. This will help your child to feel safe.

2. Take the time to listen and talk to your children. They will have questions and keeping the lines of communication open are reassuring to them.

3. Parents should avoid exaggeration and speculation. Tell them the known facts and point out that the fast breaking news reports are often false.

4. Limit your child’s exposure to the visual images on TV of the horrors  as it is likely to raise anxiety.

5. Assure your children that the authorities are doing everything possible to ensure everyone’s safety.

6. It has important that children hear from you that the people that committed these act may come from a foreign country but most of the individuals from that country are good people and would never do such things.

7. Talk to your children about the senselessness of hate and violence. Explain that Canada is a country that cherishes our freedom and peace.

8. Emotions are an integral part of being human. Parents need to be sensitive to the fact that is is OK for them to be  upset  and that you are there for them.

9. Your child may wish to remain unusually close to you. It is OK to make changes to your normal routines but aim for a quick return to your normal patterns.

10. If faith is an important part of you family beliefs, this is a time to help your child relate the events that are occurring to  your trust in your faith.

If you believe your child needs more intensive assistance, seek professional help with counselling.

 

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