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If you are headed in the wrong direction as a parent - you are allowed to make a U-turn.

There has been an explosion in the prescribing of medication for very young children, particularly preschool and kindergarten boys (Juli Zito , Univ. of Maryland)

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

The mistake that Sharon and I both made is we never set any boundaries.  (Ozzy Osbourne)

Children fare better when expectations on them are clear and firm.

Adolescence can be the cruelest place on earth. It can really be heartless.  ( Tori Amos)

"Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.)

If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

"Moody" and "unpredictable" are adjectives parents will often use when referring to their teenagers.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

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Sleep Problems (part 3 – the middle of the night screamer)

A child who regularly wakens in the night and won’t go back to sleep without  a parent’s help is SO DRAINING!  The following technique is worthy of your consideration if you have a middle of the night screamer and you are sure that there is nothing wrong with the child ie. ill.

The Controlled Crying Technique

Step # 1 – when the child wakens and begins to cry, let him cry for 10 minutes

– if he doesn’t fall back to sleep in 10 minutes, go to him and offer Grade B comfort

– pick up and cuddle low key, demonstrate concern (but not too much)

– use FEW words

Step # 2 – when the child stops crying – put him down and promptly leave the room

– use NO words

Step # 3 – when he starts crying again – let him cry 3 minutes longer than before

– offer Grade B comfort as before and when he stops crying leave his room in the same

manner as before – NO words

Step # 4 – repeat step 3 (let him cry 3 minutes longer = 16 minutes)

– goal is to gradually build up the time between your comforting

– the child eventually figures out “my parents will come sometime, but this isn’t worth the

effort

– I recommend that you do not exceed a 30 minute crying spell without offering comfort

(the comfort MUST be Grade B and use NO words)

Parents who have used this technique correctly have approximately a 90% cure rate within 7 nights. They report that children in the age range 1 year to 2 years have frequent relapses. Children over the age of 14 months display major showdowns on the first couple nights but the fuss is usually over by the 3rd night.

Giving the child the ability to self soothe and return to sleep unaided is a wonderful lifelong gift to the child and a welcome milestone for parents.

Rick Harper has been providing ideas for parents for over 40 years.

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“Implementing Rick’s techniques and adhering to them is exhausting, but it is a healthy exhaustion rather than the detrimental exhaustion I used to experience.”

(B.F. – Woodstock)