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Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

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Reading Rescue – theory – part 1

 

 

There are 2 basic approaches to teaching reading:

  1. phonics based
  2. whole language

The traditional theory of learning established in the 19th century draws on the notion that children need to break down a complex skill into its smallest components and then put the components together to perform the complex skill.

Example – the complex skill of skiing

The components of skiing:

  1. putting boots and skis on
  2. walking on level, snow covered ground with skis
  3. turning while walking on level snow
  4. sliding on a gentle slope
  5. stopping in a “snowplow” position
  6. left turn
  7. right turn

With proper instruction and some practice most people can learn to ski relatively well in a short period of time.

a) “Phonetic reading instruction” applies the same theory. Start with the  smallest component and build from there:

  1. teach the sounds of the individual letters
  2. blend the individual sounds together to make words
  3. put individual words together to make meaningful sentences

Children are taught to dissect an unfamiliar word into its parts and join the parts together to read the new word. The child learns a decoding formula that can be applied whenever he encounters an unfamiliar word.

b) “Whole language reading instruction” is less structured and less focused. It stresses the flow and meaning of the text and emphasizes reading for meaning and using language in ways that relate to the child’s own life and culture. “Sounding out” words, so central to phonics is not stressed in whole language. Instead children are encouraged to decode each word through its larger context.

Next posting “Politics of Teaching Reading

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