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"Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.)

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

Simple rules adhered to when children are young can prevent more serious problems later.

If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

Wouldn't it be nice if children would simply listen and learn.

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Parenting a FASD Toddler

The main developmental tasks for a toddler are:

– to learn he is a separate person

– to learn his body is his own

– to learn his ideas and feelings have value

Life becomes increasingly frustrating for the toddler as the demands and expectations placed on him increase. He will discover that he is unable to do many of the things he wants to do himself eg. feed, dress himself, etc.)

Guidelines for toddlers with FASD

  • consistency, routine and help remain paramount
  • caregiving can begin to be shared by a few others
  • daycare can provide relief
  • power struggles begin to emerge (the “terrible two’s”)
  • normal household expectations can be overwhelming(eg. clean the playroom)
  • FASD toddler behaviour problems begin to be a major source of conflict with siblings
  • your anger and lectures are useless management tools
  • natural and logical consequences have limited success
  • gear all opportunities for success
  • structure, routine, consistency & repetition are key tools
  • works best if FASD child is the youngest in the home

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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Contact

2720 Rath Street, Putnam, Ontario
NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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