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When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

The best inheritance  parents can give their children is a few minutes of their time each day.

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

Being a parent of a teenager can cure a person of narcissism.

The mistake that Sharon and I both made is we never set any boundaries.  (Ozzy Osbourne)

"Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.)

Adolescence can be the cruelest place on earth. It can really be heartless.  ( Tori Amos)

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

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FASD – Late Adolescence (17 – 22)

The main goals :

  1. move out of home
  2. establish his own life
  3. learn to cope with societal rules – increase personal expectation with diminishing parental support (lots of teens without FASD have trouble with this)

Trouble Areas:

  1. undereducated
  2. poor money management
  3. loneliness
  4. lack of boundaries
  5. poor judgement

He may lack the emotional and / or the educational maturity to embark on an independent life but he still has the internal and societal programming that makes him want to do it.

GUIDELINES FOR PARENTS

Your late adolescent meeds a combination of:

  • support
  • encouragement
  • patience
  • letting go

It may be best to try to ease your young person into independence by having him board with someone or home share with a responsible adult or convert the garage to a granny flat or have him move into a group home.

This is the stage of life when some individuals begin families of their own. A person with FASD usually requires an enormous amount of support

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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