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The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

Criticism is not a motivator.

Parenting style matters - a lot!

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

If you are headed in the wrong direction as a parent - you are allowed to make a U-turn.

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Face of Facebook (bullying)

I had an opportunity last night to attend a presentation by Katie Cole (Thames Valley District School Board) which focused on the ugly side of social media. My reason for going was that I am not at all into these modern forms of communicating (Facebook, Twitter, etc) but I am frequently asked to deal with the fallout of bullying that has taken place through these sites. Katie gave a very thorough and informative description of both the good and bad aspects of social media and highlighted many tips about how to educate and protect our children. She also outlined the efforts that school boards are initiating in this area, but it has become very clear that there are increasing numbers of  serious problems associated with these modern forms of communicating. The harsh reality is that social media is not going to go away and the problems are unquestionably going to increase. I applaud the efforts of people like Katie Cole and Bruce Langford who put so much effort into educating children all over Ontario on the safe use of social media.

One area of this problem that appears to be somewhat overlooked is the coaching of  children that are being bullied.  Individual coaching of children is one of the services I provide and it has made a world of difference for many children who are struggling by being bullied. I meet with the child and parents a number of occasions and teach them skills to diffuse bullying. I provide knowledge, support, encouragement and accountability which has been shown to empower children to solve their problems themselves.

Rick Harper of Behavioural Management Systems has been providing ideas to parents and children for over 40 years.

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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2720 Rath Street, Putnam, Ontario
NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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