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The mistake that Sharon and I both made is we never set any boundaries.  (Ozzy Osbourne)

Parenting style matters - a lot!

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. (Peggy O'Mara)

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

Simple rules adhered to when children are young can prevent more serious problems later.

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ADHD and the Brain

“The human brain is the best organized, most complex , highest functioning object in the universe.” (Kenneth Wesson)

An adult brain weighs about 3 pounds and has over 1 trillion cells (100 billion of them are neurons) and the cell connections within the brain number  about 1 quadrillion. The brain stores bits of information and can accomplish processes of unfathomable complexity. Unlike a computer (which simply regurgitates information) the brain can initiate new thoughts and experience emotions. The brain is a highly organized structure made up of 3 distinct sections.

a) Brain Stem – this is the most primitive part deep within the skull. It is similar in appearance to a reptile’s brain and controls unconscious body functions (eg. breathing, heart rate, body temperature, blood pressure). It works tirelessly and continuously performing its functions throughout your lifetime.

b) Cerebellum – The primary function of this small grey structure that surrounds the brain stem coordinates purposeful movement.

c) Cerebral Cortex – This outer portion of the brain deals with behaviour, concepts, emotions and personality. It is the part of the brain that distinguishes humans from lower animals. It is divided down the middle into 2 hemispheres and each hemisphere is divided into 4 lobes. The frontal lobe is the part of the brain that assigns priorities and sends signals to other portions of the brain. Among its many jobs is to:

  • organize information
  • interpret information
  • evaluate information
  • weed out unimportant information
  • assign  priorities

Most researchers and doctors suspect that it is frontal lobe malfunction that is responsible for ADHD.

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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