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The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

Criticism is not a motivator.

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

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Lying – Part 2

  LYING & TRUST   a) Children and teens lie a lot                   details about        – where they’re going                                                       – what they’re doing                                                       – who they’re with                                                       – doing things forbidden them                                                       – sometimes they continue to lie even when caught and the facts are undeniable                                                       – they may become enraged when not believed                                                       “YOU DON’T TRUST ME !”   If trustworthiness of our children and teens […]

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Lying

    LYING Little children keep no secrets – but that changes overtime.   At some point children realize that parents are not all knowing. It becomes possible to influence what their parents know about their actions and thoughts. They learn that information is power and concealing information makes them feel powerful. Lying and truth telling have powerful consequences and the drive to gain control of those consequences by hiding truth is something that manifests […]

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Reading Problems

  Reading Problems Dyslexia ( a reading/spelling disorder) affects nearly 8% of elementary school children and it can make school torturous. The best way to improve reading skills is by reading but finding books that interest children with dyslexia is no easy feat. The following books are great for encouraging less than keen readers because they are funny, surprising and exciting. “Wolfman” by Michael Rosen – a wonderful story for children as young as 5. […]

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Setting Limits with Teenagers

  Setting Limits with Teenagers ! A teenager’s job description includes being: impulsive rebellious style-obsessed irritable incommunicative peer centered risk taker sleep deprived While judgment skills are developing, he needs parents to keep him safe by setting clear limits backed up with fair, reasonable, firm and consistent consequences. Balanced limits builds trust between parents and teens – you need to find a balance between your need for control and your teen’s needs for independence. Every […]

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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Contact

2720 Rath Street, Putnam, Ontario
NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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