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Being a parent of a teenager can cure a person of narcissism.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

If it  was going to be easy to raise kids, it never would have started with something called "labour".

Criticism is not a motivator.

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

Hurt people hurt people.

If you are headed in the wrong direction as a parent - you are allowed to make a U-turn.

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Lying – Part 2

  LYING & TRUST   a) Children and teens lie a lot                   details about        – where they’re going                                                       – what they’re doing                                                       – who they’re with                                                       – doing things forbidden them                                                       – sometimes they continue to lie even when caught and the facts are undeniable                                                       – they may become enraged when not believed                                                       “YOU DON’T TRUST ME !”   If trustworthiness of our children and teens […]

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Lying

    LYING Little children keep no secrets – but that changes overtime.   At some point children realize that parents are not all knowing. It becomes possible to influence what their parents know about their actions and thoughts. They learn that information is power and concealing information makes them feel powerful. Lying and truth telling have powerful consequences and the drive to gain control of those consequences by hiding truth is something that manifests […]

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Reading Problems

  Reading Problems Dyslexia ( a reading/spelling disorder) affects nearly 8% of elementary school children and it can make school torturous. The best way to improve reading skills is by reading but finding books that interest children with dyslexia is no easy feat. The following books are great for encouraging less than keen readers because they are funny, surprising and exciting. “Wolfman” by Michael Rosen – a wonderful story for children as young as 5. […]

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Setting Limits with Teenagers

  Setting Limits with Teenagers ! A teenager’s job description includes being: impulsive rebellious style-obsessed irritable incommunicative peer centered risk taker sleep deprived While judgment skills are developing, he needs parents to keep him safe by setting clear limits backed up with fair, reasonable, firm and consistent consequences. Balanced limits builds trust between parents and teens – you need to find a balance between your need for control and your teen’s needs for independence. Every […]

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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