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Good parenting requires sacrifice. Childhood lasts for only a few brief years , but it should be given priority while it is passing before your eyes

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

If you are headed in the wrong direction as a parent - you are allowed to make a U-turn.

Adolescence can be the cruelest place on earth. It can really be heartless.  ( Tori Amos)

"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

Early intervention is always better than crisis management - but it is never too late to do the right thing.

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

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Moms Are Special

    The following was sent to me by a friend and I do not know where it originated. Questions were asked to young children and  their answers are delightful. 1. Why did God make moms? To help us out of there when we were born. 2. How did God make mothers? God made my mom just the same like He made me. He just used bigger parts. 3. What ingredients are mothers made of? […]

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Upcoming Workshop – “A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain”

        I will be presenting a 3 hour workshop entitled “A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain” at the Woodstock campus of Fanshawe College on Oct 21, 2013 (6:30-9:30) “A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain with fewer kilometres on it. It is a brain that has not fully developed. It is a work in progress and has confused parents for  centuries. Modern science is now explaining biological reasons : […]

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Balancing Punishments and Reinforcement

        If a child doesn’t know how to read: – we teach. If a child doesn’t know how to swim: – we teach. If a child doesn’t know how to multiply: – we teach. If a child doesn’t know how to behave: – we punish. There is something wrong with this picture! Rick Harper of Behavioural Management Systems  has been helping parents find the right balance between “teaching” and “punishment” for over […]

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My Kid Won’t Go to Sleep!

        I frequently receive phone calls from parents who tell me their child will not go to sleep. Typically these are parents of children under 4 years old who tell me their child does not fall asleep readily at night and/or wakes repeatedly during the night. The parents are tired, frustrated and often angry. Their own relationship has become tense and they are wondering whether there is something wrong with their child […]

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Foster Parent Training

    It was my pleasure recently to have had the opportunity of speaking to a group of foster parents from Carpe Diem Residential Treatment Homes in the Hamilton/Ancaster, Ontario area. Approximately 20 foster parents and staff participated in the workshop “A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain” and they learned that modern science can now explain biological reasons for some of the worrisome behaviours we see in our teens. The invention of those marvelous […]

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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Contact

2720 Rath Street, Putnam, Ontario
NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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