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Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

Adolescence can be the cruelest place on earth. It can really be heartless.  ( Tori Amos)

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

Many clinicians find it easier to tell parents their child has a brain-based disorder than suggest parenting changes. Jennifer Harris (psychiatrist)

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

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THE TERROR OF NIGHT TERRORS

The Terror of Night Terrors     Few things are more terrifying for a parent than the first time their child has a night terror. Night terrors are different than bad dreams or nightmares. Bad dreams and nightmares happen to virtually everybody and occur during the REM sleep phase (rapid eye movement). Researchers have discovered that even fetuses have dreams – including “bad” ones. Bad dreams may cause facial grimaces, moving, thrashing about and may […]

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Lying – Part 2

  LYING & TRUST   a) Children and teens lie a lot                   details about        – where they’re going                                                       – what they’re doing                                                       – who they’re with                                                       – doing things forbidden them                                                       – sometimes they continue to lie even when caught and the facts are undeniable                                                       – they may become enraged when not believed                                                       “YOU DON’T TRUST ME !”   If trustworthiness of our children and teens […]

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Lying

    LYING Little children keep no secrets – but that changes overtime.   At some point children realize that parents are not all knowing. It becomes possible to influence what their parents know about their actions and thoughts. They learn that information is power and concealing information makes them feel powerful. Lying and truth telling have powerful consequences and the drive to gain control of those consequences by hiding truth is something that manifests […]

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Reading Problems

  Reading Problems Dyslexia ( a reading/spelling disorder) affects nearly 8% of elementary school children and it can make school torturous. The best way to improve reading skills is by reading but finding books that interest children with dyslexia is no easy feat. The following books are great for encouraging less than keen readers because they are funny, surprising and exciting. “Wolfman” by Michael Rosen – a wonderful story for children as young as 5. […]

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Setting Limits with Teenagers

  Setting Limits with Teenagers ! A teenager’s job description includes being: impulsive rebellious style-obsessed irritable incommunicative peer centered risk taker sleep deprived While judgment skills are developing, he needs parents to keep him safe by setting clear limits backed up with fair, reasonable, firm and consistent consequences. Balanced limits builds trust between parents and teens – you need to find a balance between your need for control and your teen’s needs for independence. Every […]

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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Phone: (519) 485-4678
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Email: info@rickharper.ca

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