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You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. (Peggy O'Mara)

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

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Lick Your Kids

 
“Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours)
First the bad news – if you have kids you can really mess them up.
Now the good news – you also have the opportunity to help them become great.
There are 3 powerful forces influencing your child’s development
1.    nature        = his genetic code
2.    nurture       = what you (mom & dad) do
3.    free will     = your child’s independent decisions
You can’t change his genetic code and once your child becomes a certain age you can’t force your will on him, but you always have complete control of your responses to him.
This workshop is filled with sanity saving strategies that provide ideas on how to
effectively respond to:
            – temper tantrums                              – sibling quibbling
            – noncompliance                                – lying
            – setting boundaries                          – stealing
            – breaking curfew                               – allowances
            – using rewards                                  – time out
            – homework hassles                          – messy rooms
            – testing & manipulation                    -much more

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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Contact

2720 Rath Street, Putnam, Ontario
NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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Parents' Comments

“Our daughter was the joy of our life until she turned 13, then all hell broke loose. Rick helped us understand what was happening to her and we made some adjustments that helped us get through it. She’s now in University and doing well.”

(D.A. – St. Thomas)