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"Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.)

Adolescence can be the cruelest place on earth. It can really be heartless.  ( Tori Amos)

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

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Lick Your Kids

 
“Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours)
First the bad news – if you have kids you can really mess them up.
Now the good news – you also have the opportunity to help them become great.
There are 3 powerful forces influencing your child’s development
1.    nature        = his genetic code
2.    nurture       = what you (mom & dad) do
3.    free will     = your child’s independent decisions
You can’t change his genetic code and once your child becomes a certain age you can’t force your will on him, but you always have complete control of your responses to him.
This workshop is filled with sanity saving strategies that provide ideas on how to
effectively respond to:
            – temper tantrums                              – sibling quibbling
            – noncompliance                                – lying
            – setting boundaries                          – stealing
            – breaking curfew                               – allowances
            – using rewards                                  – time out
            – homework hassles                          – messy rooms
            – testing & manipulation                    -much more

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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Contact

2720 Rath Street, Putnam, Ontario
NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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Parents' Comments

“We are foster parents who took in a 13 year old girl (going on 18!) and she ran us through the wringer. Rick helped us learn how to set limits that made the difference.”

(G.E. – Strathroy)