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"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

Being a parent of a teenager can cure a person of narcissism.

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

If it  was going to be easy to raise kids, it never would have started with something called "labour".

Adolescence can be the cruelest place on earth. It can really be heartless.  ( Tori Amos)

Hurt people hurt people.

Children fare better when expectations on them are clear and firm.

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The Teenage Brain

 

Adolescence is ONE of the times in an individuals life when the greatest brain development is occurring.

  • the brain changes in size and shape
  • grey matter thickens
  • increase in synaptic connections between brain cells
  • specialization within the brain occurs
  • “pruning” of neural pathways occurs
  • sex hormones impact the brain

Neurotransmitters  are chemicals in the brain that facilitate the transmission of messages along nerve cells (billions of messages per second).

The primary neurotransmitters involved with depression are:

  1. serotonin
  2. dopamine
  3. norepinephrine

THE DISREGULATION OF NEUROTRANSMITTERS IS A PRIMARY CONTRIBUTOR TO DEPRESSION.

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Developmental tasks during adolescence

  1. adjust to physical changes
  2. separate from their parents
  3. develop a social network
  4. begin to focus on educational and vocational objectives
  5. develop a sexual identity

All of the above is a lot to expect in a few short years of adolescence = STRESS

“Stress” has a significant effect on parts of the brain involved in the regulation and control of emotions.

Stressful events are among the strongest precipitants of initial episodes of major depression.

DEPRESSION IS A MALFUNCTION OF STRESS MANAGEMENT

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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Contact

2720 Rath Street, Putnam, Ontario
NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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Parents' Comments

“Our daughter was the joy of our life until she turned 13, then all hell broke loose. Rick helped us understand what was happening to her and we made some adjustments that helped us get through it. She’s now in University and doing well.”

(D.A. – St. Thomas)