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"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. (Peggy O'Mara)

"Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.)

Adolescence can be the cruelest place on earth. It can really be heartless.  ( Tori Amos)

Being a parent of a teenager can cure a person of narcissism.

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

The mistake that Sharon and I both made is we never set any boundaries.  (Ozzy Osbourne)

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Terror Attacks

 

10 Tips on Talking to Your Children About Terror Attacks

It is not possible to shield our children from the events such as the events that Canada has experienced this past week. They see and hear the stories on TV, radio, in the newspaper and they also note the emotional responses from the adults in their lives. The experts on such matters offer the following advice:

1. Remain calm. This will help your child to feel safe.

2. Take the time to listen and talk to your children. They will have questions and keeping the lines of communication open are reassuring to them.

3. Parents should avoid exaggeration and speculation. Tell them the known facts and point out that the fast breaking news reports are often false.

4. Limit your child’s exposure to the visual images on TV of the horrors  as it is likely to raise anxiety.

5. Assure your children that the authorities are doing everything possible to ensure everyone’s safety.

6. It has important that children hear from you that the people that committed these act may come from a foreign country but most of the individuals from that country are good people and would never do such things.

7. Talk to your children about the senselessness of hate and violence. Explain that Canada is a country that cherishes our freedom and peace.

8. Emotions are an integral part of being human. Parents need to be sensitive to the fact that is is OK for them to be  upset  and that you are there for them.

9. Your child may wish to remain unusually close to you. It is OK to make changes to your normal routines but aim for a quick return to your normal patterns.

10. If faith is an important part of you family beliefs, this is a time to help your child relate the events that are occurring to  your trust in your faith.

If you believe your child needs more intensive assistance, seek professional help with counselling.

 

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