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"Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.)

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

There has been an explosion in the prescribing of medication for very young children, particularly preschool and kindergarten boys (Juli Zito , Univ. of Maryland)

Adolescence can be the cruelest place on earth. It can really be heartless.  ( Tori Amos)

"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

"Moody" and "unpredictable" are adjectives parents will often use when referring to their teenagers.

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Tactics for Temper Tantrums (part 7)

 

 

Retreat

Sometimes there is nothing else but to retreat. Let the child know you will absolutely not be drawn in. This approach is justified when the stimulus to the tantrum is so absurd that it is not worth any effort  (such as the one that frequently occurs when someone fails to cut the sandwich in precisely the correct size pieces). No parent should be expected to wasted much imaginative effort on such minuscule  matters.

In this case the parent retreats to another room, bars the door and waits it out.

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+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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