welcome image

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

"Moody" and "unpredictable" are adjectives parents will often use when referring to their teenagers.

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

There has been an explosion in the prescribing of medication for very young children, particularly preschool and kindergarten boys (Juli Zito , Univ. of Maryland)

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

Learn more.

Brain Facts # 5

Lifelong Neuroplasticity

 

Historically, it was thought that the human brain was a fixed and essentially limited system that only degraded with age. This view saw the brain as a rigid machine in many ways, pretty much set after childhood. By contrast, we have now come to appreciate that the human brain is actually a highly dynamic and constantly reorganizing system, capable of being shaped and reshaped across the entire lifespan. It is believed that every experience alters the brain’s organization at some level. The central concept in this new approach is neuroplasticity, the brain’s lifelong capacity to change and rewire itself in response to the stimulation of learning and experience. This includes both the lifelong ability to create new neurons  and to create new connections between neurons .

A young brain allows for fast learning, as well as for potentially faster repair. As we age, the rate of neuroplasticity declines, but does not come to a halt.  As the noted neuroscientist, Dr. James Zull  puts it: “We now know that every brain can change, at any age. There  is really no upper limit on learning since the neurons seem to be capable of growing new connections whenever they are used repeatedly.”

Lifelong neuroplasticity has major consequences for brain health and fitness. It means that our lifestyle and actions play a meaningful role in how brains physically change throughout life. Neuroplasticity gives us the power to resist the effects of decline or disease by supporting our ability to accumulate knowledge and experiences.

CLASSROOM & HOMEWORK TIP for SPECIAL NEEDS CHILDREN

Once children are in school, adults tend to be preoccupied with whether they are learning their alphabet and arithmetic. But if a child is having learning difficulties, the first thing we need to look at is not his letters and numbers but his ability to pay attention and to regulate himself. If a child doesn’t have this ability, then we need to work on that ability with the child. You cannot jump over this vital internal milestone. There is no point in pushing a child to learn how to spell triangle or add 15 + 27 before he learns how to look, listen and stay calm. First things first.

Back to Top

Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

Learn more

+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

Learn more

+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

Learn more

+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

Learn more

+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

Learn more

See more of our workshops


Contact

2720 Rath Street, Putnam, Ontario
NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

Archive


Parents' Comments

“He is a wealth of knowledge coupled with first hand experience.”

(E.K. – London)