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You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

"Moody" and "unpredictable" are adjectives parents will often use when referring to their teenagers.

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

Being a parent of a teenager can cure a person of narcissism.

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

Early intervention is always better than crisis management - but it is never too late to do the right thing.

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Dry Bed Training

      Dry Bed Training (Part 1) Many of the parents who contact me regarding behaviour issues with their children also deal with bed wetting, and dry bed training is sometimes a secondary goal that we address. First the Good News ! 1. Bedwetting is not an illness. 2. Bedwetting is not the child’s fault. 3. Bedwetting is not the parent’s fault. 4. Bedwetting can contribute to emotional problems ~ but it’s not inevitable. […]

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Dry Bed Training

Dry Bed Training (Part 1) Many of the parents who contact me regarding behaviour issues with their children also deal with bed wetting, and dry bed training is sometimes a secondary goal that we address. First the Good News ! 1. Bedwetting is not an illness. 2. Bedwetting is not the child’s fault. 3. Bedwetting is not the parent’s fault. 4. Bedwetting can contribute to emotional problems ~ but it’s not inevitable. 5. There are […]

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Big Brothers, Big Sisters, Big Day

    I had an opportunity recently to meet with a number of people connected through Big Brothers/Big Sisters. The Wellington Street Sportsmen’s Club each year invite the “Brothers and Sisters” to participate in a day of fishing at the club pond near Dorchester. About 50 Brothers and Sisters came out to enjoy a beautiful Saturday, lots of fish, a BBQ of hot dogs and hamburgers, topped off with a bag of chips and an […]

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Dealing With Children’s Behaviour Problems

          I have been working with children with behaviour issues for over 40 years. Some of these children displayed emotional problems, learning disabilities, impulse control issues, hyperactivity and attention deficits. They all have had trouble functioning in their homes, schools and/or community. Behavioural Management Systems believes that these problems can best be resolved in the home by the parents. Learning to manage a child’s behaviour at home will improve all other […]

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Behaviour Management Course for EA’s, ECE’s, CYW’s, DSW’s, and PSW’s

School Boards and agencies are requiring EA’s, ECE’s, CYW’s, DSW’s and PSW’s to receive an upgrading or refresher course in their behaviour management skills. Behavioural Management Systems is responding to this need by offering a custom designed course that is convenient, flexible and affordable. Simply e-mail (info@rickharper.ca) or phone (519) 485-4678 for details. A course can be arranged at any time, for any number of participants (even individuals). You will receive instruction and a comprehensive […]

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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Contact

2720 Rath Street, Putnam, Ontario
NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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“Our daughter was the joy of our life until she turned 13, then all hell broke loose. Rick helped us understand what was happening to her and we made some adjustments that helped us get through it. She’s now in University and doing well.”

(D.A. – St. Thomas)