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The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

Early intervention is always better than crisis management - but it is never too late to do the right thing.

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

"Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.)

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

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Security Blankets

Many toddlers and preschoolers have a special blanket or stuffed toy that is very important to them. Researchers have found that these security items are appropriately named because they actually do provide a feeling of security for children. Approximately 60% of young children do have an attachment to a comforting blanket or toy. Children eventually outgrow their need for such items and parents should not force their child to give them up before they are […]

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Mom’s Manifesto

This was taken from Kirk Martin’s newsletter (www.celebrate calm.com) and is worthy to pass on to parents who are being “stretched” by the attitudes and behaviour of their teenage children. Mom’s Manifesto for Personal and Family Sanity (what I will do and what I’ll stop doing) 1. I will stop telling you what you should do and dumping my anxiety about your future on you. It’s your life, not mine, and you’re very capable of […]

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Violent Video Games

    The following is a scene from Grand Theft Auto : Vice City. It is a first person game where the player controls all the characters and is awarded points for behaving in certain ways. You steal a geek’s Corvette and speed along Miami’s roadways. You turn up the volume on the car’s radio. You see a pretty woman standing beside the road and slam on the brakes. She walks over to your car, […]

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Teen Suicide

Statistics: 1. suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death among 15 to 24 year olds (after car accidents) 2. for every suicide completion, there are between 100 and 200 attempts 3. 15% of teens report suicide ideation Myths: a) young people rarely think about suicide – FALSE b) talking about suicide will give young people the idea or permission to consider suicide – FALSE c) suicide is sudden and unpredictable – FALSE d) suicidal […]

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ADHD in the Classroom

Many children with ADHD are in constant motion. Classroom settings pose a particular problem for them as they wiggle, squirm, talk out and annoy their neighbours. It is important for teachers and parents to understand that these behaviours are not the result of the children intentionally  choosing to behave in this way. It is an expression of a brain-based biological imbalance of their neurotransmitters. Sitting quietly, without moving for period of time is beyond their […]

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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“We were so naive. We thought our son’s poor behaviour was just a phase he was passing through. Thankfully you led us ‘out of the wilderness'”

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