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"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

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Kashechewan

A big thank you to the staff at St. Andrew’s School in Kashechewan for your kindness and the opportunity to share ideas about behaviour management. Kashechewan is a First Nations community of about 2,500 people in Canada’s subarctic. It is situated near the mouth of the Albany River on James Bay.

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Columbine High School

COLUMBINE HIGH SCHOOL 1999 – the two perpetrators (both committed suicide)                                     – one was being treated for psychiatric disorder                                     – both in trouble with the law                                     – both were socially isolated “losers”                                     – both had been bullied                                     – both enduring pain This was a big story in 1999 but it is not the biggest story – most teens suffer alone, invisibly and their eventual suicides never make to TV news […]

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The Good News About Temper Tantrums

children usually outgrow them they are a normal part of development they are vehicles which teach children: how to cope with frustration – how to problem solve – communication skills 4. there are a number of strategies parents can use to teach these skills and numerous ideas about preventing them WARNING – the parent’s understanding about tantrums and their appropriate response to one is critical for the healthy development of children. How do tantrums make […]

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Where to begin looking for help

What options does a parent have when seeking help for their child’s behaviour problems? Parents who ask for my help have usually experienced many of the following emotions: frustration misunderstood confused overwhelmed exhausted bewildered angry guilty inadequate isolated vulnerable trapped embarrassed helpless hopeless This is not a fun place for a parent to be and not a healthy place for a child to grow. I am not usually the first person that parents ask to […]

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FASD – Wisdom from Long Ago

“You will conceive and give birth to a son. Now then, drink no wine or other fermented drink.” ( Judges 13:7) In ancient Carthage, a ritual developed that forbade the drinking of wine by the bridal couple so that a defective child would not be conceived.                                                           […]

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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2720 Rath Street, Putnam, Ontario
NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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Parents' Comments

“Implementing Rick’s techniques and adhering to them is exhausting, but it is a healthy exhaustion rather than the detrimental exhaustion I used to experience.”

(B.F. – Woodstock)