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Criticism is not a motivator.

If it  was going to be easy to raise kids, it never would have started with something called "labour".

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

"Moody" and "unpredictable" are adjectives parents will often use when referring to their teenagers.

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

There has been an explosion in the prescribing of medication for very young children, particularly preschool and kindergarten boys (Juli Zito , Univ. of Maryland)

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

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Teen Issues 1

Parents of teenagers face numerous issues and struggles. It is no wonder they become discouraged, overwhelmed, angry or confused. Rick has ideas how to help.

  •  disrespectful attitude towards parents, family and others
  • challenges requests or rules
  • self-absorbed
  • unable to see things from another’s perspective
  • lazy and careless about responsibilities
  • has a negative attitude toward school
  • is emotionally withdrawn and distant
  • picks friends of whom parents disapprove
  • erupts in anger for minor reasons
  • lacks motivation for school, failing grades
  • neglects home chores and responsibilities
  • moody
  • mean to siblings
  • detaches from family events
  • wants to be with peers only
  • lies and deceptive about activities
  • physically aggressive or destructive
  • skips school
  • abuses substances – alcohol, drugs, pornography
  • engages in sexual activity

The right intervention, given at the right time , in the right way, can make all the difference in the world.

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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Phone: (519) 485-4678
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Email: info@rickharper.ca

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