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If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

If it  was going to be easy to raise kids, it never would have started with something called "labour".

"Moody" and "unpredictable" are adjectives parents will often use when referring to their teenagers.

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

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Teen Issues 1

Parents of teenagers face numerous issues and struggles. It is no wonder they become discouraged, overwhelmed, angry or confused. Rick has ideas how to help.

  •  disrespectful attitude towards parents, family and others
  • challenges requests or rules
  • self-absorbed
  • unable to see things from another’s perspective
  • lazy and careless about responsibilities
  • has a negative attitude toward school
  • is emotionally withdrawn and distant
  • picks friends of whom parents disapprove
  • erupts in anger for minor reasons
  • lacks motivation for school, failing grades
  • neglects home chores and responsibilities
  • moody
  • mean to siblings
  • detaches from family events
  • wants to be with peers only
  • lies and deceptive about activities
  • physically aggressive or destructive
  • skips school
  • abuses substances – alcohol, drugs, pornography
  • engages in sexual activity

The right intervention, given at the right time , in the right way, can make all the difference in the world.

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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Parents' Comments

“Our daughter was the joy of our life until she turned 13, then all hell broke loose. Rick helped us understand what was happening to her and we made some adjustments that helped us get through it. She’s now in University and doing well.”

(D.A. – St. Thomas)