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When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

Criticism is not a motivator.

"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

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FASD – Wisdom from Long Ago

“You will conceive and give birth to a son. Now then, drink no wine or other fermented drink.”

( Judges 13:7)

In ancient Carthage, a ritual developed that forbade the drinking of wine by the bridal couple so that a defective child would not be conceived.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        (500 BC)

“Foolish, drunken and harebrained women most often bring forth children like unto themselves, morose and languid.”                                                                                                                                 (Aristotle  350 BC)

“Parental drinking is a cause of weak, feeble and distempered children.”  (Royal College of Physicians 1726)

“Infants born to alcoholic mothers sometimes had a starved, shriveled and imperfect look.”

(British House of Commons 1834)

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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2720 Rath Street, Putnam, Ontario
NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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“We are foster parents who took in a 13 year old girl (going on 18!) and she ran us through the wringer. Rick helped us learn how to set limits that made the difference.”

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